Should I tell her Dad and Stepmom to quit trying to help, and just stay neutral? She did mention that everyone in her family is on my side a while back. I said that they were only trying to help and that I can't do anything about that. W has been more open the last few days, but I just realized that contact has been started by me and not her, at least in most cases, usually about kids. I did tell her the other night that her calling and crying with the girls wasn't right, and that she can't keep saying that she can't take everything anymore to me. She left me, these are the consequences.
My D5 is having a tough time, very attached to me, and cries Everytime she leaves me for W. W is starting to show signs of being angry about that, mood and attitude toward her. But I said it's part of it, and she needs to show her love and support, but who knows how she acts when I am not there. May be just an act when I am there.
Should I just go NC for a while and see what happens. It seems she has been telling me more about her life lately, but really just everyday stuff. I messed up and pushed some M talk lately, from above posts, she said she was not ready to be vulnerable or to come back yet. Once I hear that makes me want to push harder to show I really do care, wrong thing to do? I guess I need to just make her contact me period, no more texts, this is the hard part. That was part of our problem in M we just texted everything, didn't really talk face to face enough. Like we were both trying to hide our emotions. We are both very emotionally shut off people due to childhoods.
If I want to save my M, we have to talk face to face and see each other for the first time in a long time so to speak. Yes that's far away, I just don't want to miss a point that I should take time to really think about what is right to do. I am scared to make her mad, that is getting better by the day lately. Finally telling myself what's the worst to happen here?
