Hi daring, From what I've read here and other places about the stages of MLC, it seems to me he is testing to see if it is safe for him to open up to you. He's starting to see how his actions have hurt you and wants to know if you really don't just hate him for what he's done/doing or if you truly still do care about him. He may be wondering if it really was the right thing to do leaving his M and wants to see if you are going to heap all this blame on him. He probably still thinks what he is doing is OK as it's what he feels he needs to do for himself and wants to see if you will lay a guilt trip on him. If you do, he will run back into the tunnel from what I've read.
Sounds like you are doing OK. You aren't telling him that you think what he did was "wrong", just that it causes you pain. I think the worst thing you can do at this time is tell him how wrong you think he was or how awful he is for doing what he is.
I would be careful about how much hurt you show as that can cause them to feel pressure. Just that you are there and ready and willing to make an attempt at making the M work IF/when HE is READY. No judgement. I also agree that ML is off the table for now. I think that would send the wrong message but that is up to you.
None of this is from my own experience. Just what I've read and I am by no means an expert. There are some threads on here from exMLCers that talk about how they felt coming out and what their S's did that made them more comfortable. Look for those as they have been there. Good luck, daring. I'm hoping for the best outcome for you!
