Sex was great, then we married?

[GoatGal]

I just got back to the board and this boat is still where I left it.


Wife went to doc and got on Cymbalta.


Wife has "very bad, very painful" neuropathy from...


WIFE HAD CANCER.
Went through a rapid surgical menopause..
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In your wife's shoes, I'd be depressed as hell. Especially if my new, younger husband was getting a bird's eye view of the ugly side of getting older that we all face.

She is in constant, severe pain (I have nerve pain from a back injury and I'll tell you, it does not bring out the vixen in me.)

Just because she can put on a happy face around you does NOT mean she isn't seriously depressed.

A True Story:
My mother went to see a shrink at my urging, laughed and charmed her way through the entire appointment, he says my concerns are unfounded... The next day I get a call that she tried to end her life in a gas-filled garage.
She then ended up in a hospital getting the treatment she needed.

Your wife might be just as depressed, not seeing any reason to keep going, and you're worried that the Cymbalta will affect her sex drive?
I can bet that under the circumstances, she really must need this drug if she knows it will decrease her drive even more.

I'm projecting, but I suspect your wife has been downplaying all she's going through because she doesn't want to lose you.

I am not hearing much compassion on your end and that disturbs me.
It sounds like all your wining and dining is just to get her in the sack...it's been a week and instead of chilling out, you're getting more wound up about your sex life.

It's pressure, pressure, and more pressure.

How fearful should your wife be that you will leave her if you can't get her to fix it on your timetable?

Sorry if this sounds harsh, but it's coming off like you really don't care much about what she's going through. It doesn't sound like unconditional love right now.
It really hasn't been all that long. You're not gonna die.

Stop thinking of yourself if you can.
Take a breath.


---GG