No it's not. You detach from the WAS with the understanding that you can't control the other person and increase positive interactions through trial and error. That might even mean giving them space. And you don't obsess over them day and night.
Did you actually read the books?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
