Hi Julie, When my W and I were talking about custody of our D14 (a very deep and important and painful subject) she told me what she wanted and when I didn't just agree and only said "I'm not sure that is a good idea...", she not only didn't let me finish the sentence, she ran screaming "I knew you would try and keep me away from my D! I hate you!" and HID from me! I had to look all over the house for her and I found her, like a toddler, hiding in the corner of the pantry! When I told her that wasn't the case, I just wasn't sure the way she wanted to do it (7 days with her, 7 with me) was best. She then gave me 30 min's to come up with what I thought would be best. 30 min's? Really?
Yes, they are very child like. They are so worried about their new friends and what they think of them, how they will "look" to other people. It makes the whole process of D/separation, so much harder when these are subjects that can such lasting effects on so many and they can't be rational.
Of course, knowing that this is a script, that we aren't alone in hearing this crap does help somewhat. It doesn't change that we must go through this pain but it does show us that we aren't the ones who saw all our history the "wrong" way!
