According to my xh my (late) father made him marry me. In fact my father liked a previous bf of mine much more.
Do they believe it? I don't know. It seems to me more like a toddler screaming and saying 'I hate you'. At that moment they 'believe' it, but it isn't their psychological truth. Their feelings for us are getting in the way of everything they do, and that is causing the frustration and resentment.
The script comes out of this emotional state, and because that is the commonality, it explains the similarity.
Consider the cliche of the kid and cookie jar: 'It wasn't me, I wasn't there, and I didn't do it anyway Oh and my sister/bf made me' It is the reaction of the guilty found out!
I would almost be a relief to have a new response. Nearly nine years on I am still getting the same garbage. Give me a break. The re-runs are boring.
