Originally Posted By: beatrice

Bright - two things stand out here for me.

One is that a decision made when your h was twelve is one he has lived by - that is just strange.


This is not strange to me. My W told me early on (I met her at 16) that she didn't want kids. She said this because she feared she would treat them the same way her mom treated her kids, (abusively) and she didn't want to do that. On this she has never wavered, and seems to have no regrets even today.

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The second is that I know a number of people from dysfunctional families who have realised the dysfunction and dealt with it. MLC is about stuff undealt with, as far as I can see.


Agreed.

Originally Posted By: BF from Matts thread
He (H) is not mean, he is quite reasonable in a lot of things, he is not blaming me anymore, it looks like he is content with his life. Should I consider him making it through MLC and being on the other side now? Just with the different views… This is where I’m confused.


I sometimes wonder the same thing with my W. But then I look at my (and your) BD, and believe it is too early for them to be on the other side.


Last edited by ForeverYoung; 06/18/14 04:13 AM.
M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
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