If you are tired, then sleep on it. The advice which seems to be consistent here is do not move out. If she wants to, let her. But stay in the house with the kids. But maybe wait for someone else to chime in.

Best of luck

Me: 42
W: 32
Married 7 years together 8.5
S1: 7 S2:7
Bomb #1: 09-16-13
Recon #1: 11/13
A discovered 04-03-2014
W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me
I filed D 12-02-2014
S 05-31-14
Divorced 5-19-16