One last update: and Ben, I hope you're right on his orig intent. I just got a text from him saying that what he didn't get to tell me tonight was that he really misses me. That's the first (only) positive thing he's said for a week and a half! I had to read it a few times, just to make sure I was reading it correctly, ha! I don't want to overanalyze it, but I like it...
I was actually thinking about that idea tonight that you mentioned also... that oftentimes we might not see all of the positive end results from everyone here because like the saying goes, "once you find what you're looking for, you stop looking".
If we do have a positive outcome, I'll be sure to post about it. I like when others do that too - it gives me hope.