It also helps to focus on the negatives about your W. Our minds have built our WAWs to be perfect to a degree we cannot live without them. Its a natural thing when we are losing someone we care about...we only focus on the positives. And I am not even talking about dwelling on an A or anything. Think about the little things she did to annoy you...or her imperfections. It helps to extinguish that extreme sense of loss. It will also help prepare you for when the piecing starts you do not jump right in and get over anxious. Now she is a person who truly has to win you over.

Just my 2 cents...

Me: 42
W: 32
Married 7 years together 8.5
S1: 7 S2:7
Bomb #1: 09-16-13
Recon #1: 11/13
A discovered 04-03-2014
W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me
I filed D 12-02-2014
S 05-31-14
Divorced 5-19-16