Ben, It's true that she may not wish to stay married to you. We all are here to try to avoid that, but also have to acknowledge that is a possibility. But if that happens... does that mean you won't need to make these changes in yourself? You are young.. you will have other relationships (maybe with your W, or with someone else). The changes are for YOU in order to allow you be more successful in your next R (and in other parts of your life, in general).
Relationships may come and go. .. but you are stuck with you! What kind of YOU do you want to be? That is what you must work on. That is the only thing you have control over. And thank goodness, because it is the most important thing.
