"If the roles were reversed, I would see a doctor."
I meant, what if the roles were reversed where you couldn't have sex - Period. What would you do?
Would you be fine with her satisfying you orally or another way just to make you happy even if she's not feeling it? I'm not talking about obligation, but what if she wanted to do it because she wants to do it for you.
Yes? I don't love oral as much as most people do anyway, but I also want it to be about her. I want her to want to feel pleasure.
I feel like I need to clarify that neither of us are unable to have sex. She likes it, she just doesn't want it, I think. It's strange, hard to describe. Both of us can have it, one of us wants it badly.
If I couldn't, that's tricky. I think it would be better if I didn't want to rather than couldn't. I feel like I can't help wanting it, like a cigarette that's good for you instead of bad. I'm not addicted to sex, I'm just really into my wife, and my therapist mentioned that's not uncommon----to be more attracted to my wife now that we're married and spend more time together (I would have assumed the opposite was more normal).
Anyway, my therapist asked me to get four more books before I see her again next week so I'll start there and see what happens with the Cymbalta and the sleeping.
