What is my Next Move?

[KenF]

i had that same dilemma.

i was scared to set a strong boundary and to stand up for myself out of fear i'd push her away. she left anyway.

stand up for yourself. be manly and strong. and thats not to say be aggressive, or on the offensive. but being soft and accepting will not convince her to stop.

if you cant stand her cheating in front of you, then let her know your boundary and that you will not allow her to disrespect you in that way. if she wants to continue then she can do it elsewhere.

and yes, you hate to see her go, but ultimately its better than watching her cheat in front of you.