"I have never had an issue pleasing any girl that Ive been with. No size issues or anything like that. Not sure why she doesnt enjoy it that much."

That as well as everything else is out of your hands. You're still thinking of a plan that comes from your POV and not hers.

"She said she tried to get me to read it a long time ago and that I never did. Im sorry that I didnt now...Any suggestions on something I can do to get here to read it?"

Do you remember her doing that? THAT should have been a red flag for you. If you go back over the history of your relationship, you'll find that there were many times that she tried to reach out to you but you shut her down.

Now that you've "suddenly" reached an epiphany because she's leaving you, you think she's in the wrong. She tried and didn't see you wanting to change. What else was she going to do?

"And Pilot, when we dont ever see each other(we have no kids or anything) then it makes it very hard for her to even see any changes at all."

So you say you've changed now. If they were real changes, there is no need for her to be able to see them because they are changes for YOU. If you do it solely to just get her back, once she returns, you will go back to how you were before. There are actually a couple of posters currently who didn't make their changes for life and found their spouses leaving them again for the same issues as before.


M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER