I don't know if my post will get through to you or not, but here goes:
You've mentioned time and again that all of her previous R's were with bad boy/jerk types. You're aware of this. Have you given any thought to the possibility that your personality is not "doing it" for her in the attraction department?
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT