What to do II

[Ben2010]

I am not planning on following all of his advice. I am still making changes to me right now. Still in anger management, still working on the porn addiction, still going to C, still going to get my teeth fixed. I am not throwing your opinion to the side or anything MrBond. I was not planning on taking his plan in it's entirety. I would never have the F' you attitude with my W. However, I do agree with some of what he says and Ill be honest it makes me feel better about myself. Also still reading the books.

I value your opinion alot on here based on what Ive read. You have been through the fire and come out of it. I dont know how this is going to go, but not talking to her seems to possibly be the one thing that is showing some positive signs.

I do know that from our past breakups that this approach has worked. She has only ever broken up with me one time, I broke up with her 2 times. When she broke up with me, I was a real a$$hole about it and didnt care. This drove her crazy and she called me asking to come back. She did the clingy thing when I broke up with her and called me and stalked me for about a week. It didnt get her anywhere so she just stopped talking to me. Then about a week after that, she texted me about having sex with me (really good text messages). I let her come over and told her that it didnt mean that we were back together, but she knew what she was doing. It worked.

So based on past experience with her, I think that might be the way to go with her here. Like I said though, I will not be doing all of what he says. I wont be dating anyone else or even thinking about that. Just GAL and work on what I need to and ignore her right now unless she wants to come see me.