Which post? The one about Cymbalta? I think it's weird----my W asked her doctor about "losing her mojo" and he put her on Cymbalta, known for reducing libido. And it seems to have had an instant effect, per my W.
Look, I'm not talking about it with her, we aren't fighting or debating about it, I frankly don't know what to say and in the meantime I'm just being loving and cool and fun and sweet and letting her go to bed an hour early and I'm terrified of bringing it up, I don't really know what to say, I miss having any kind of physical relationships, instead I feel like I've been replaced by my dogs who have more physical connection with her (they lay in bed with her as she passes out and she pets them).
I know the standard is to say something else is wrong and I need to find that in me. I don't know how to convince anyone that's probably not the case at all, so humor me for the sake of the argument that the only thing missing in our M is sex. We're happy. She's happy. She doesn't feel "normal" I think is why she got on Cymbalta, but you'd never know from what she says or how she acts, including with me. It's hard to explain. She just has no sex drive like she did before she met me and was with other men. Meanwhile, I've shaved more often than ever before, I listen, we've grown closer, there's no doubt about that-----the only thing missing really does seem to be sex.
And it [censored]. Sorry. Maybe that makes me selfish. I want to have sex with my wife, only there's nothing I can do about it. At home, I don't bring it up. I don't hit on her, yet we still kiss and hug and everything we want that's just not sex. I'm sad now-------it feels like that part of our life isn't just gone but further away rather than closer thanks to her asking the doctor about it in the first place.
Well, I assume she asked him, she said she did, but who knows, she didn't talk much about it except to say he put her on Cymbalta, which also helps with her diabetic neuropathy from the cancer and stuff, plus it puts her out every night like a light earlier than ever. Our bed is no longer a place for ML, it's a place for her to cuddle dogs and pass out. I don't like it.
