Good point T2! I guess I should have said in a way that makes sense to us. One common theme I have seen from those that have come through the MLC tunnel is that, once they get to the other side, almost all of them see that the things that they tried weren't the things that they needed. They looked to the outside, to the people or things around them when where they should have been looking all along is inside. It isn't until they see this that they truly are able to find peace. How many find that losing weight, buying sprees, dumping S, having an A, etc. actually make them happy? It's not until they try all those type of things and still nothing changes that they start to make real progress.
You are right. They aren't doing anything for or to anyone but themselves and I know that in my case my W isn't punishing me or doing anything TO me. It's just, like you said, "not particularly adaptive to regular life".
