T2 is 100% correct in saying that MLCers are trying to fix some things about themselves. They go back to a time where they were emotionally stunted to try to figure out why and how it happened and it is at this time in their lives where they have to begin growing up. Many of the MLCers were abused in some fashion, others were not recognized for their accomplishments, some didn't receive affirmation and some were ignored when there were other siblings that may have been far better in academics or sports. Whatever the reason, they have to go back to that age and deal w/their demons, accept the things that they can't fix/change w/respect to authority figures, losses, etc., and hopefully then begin to grow up and become better, more mature individuals on the other side of the tunnel.
What they do and how they go about it is not the "adult" and/or "mature" way of going about things because they are on a "emotional" journey and when emotionally charged, they don't think rationally or act like adults. Unfortunately, we all tend to forget that we have to learn to accept them for who they are today and not who they were pre-crisis.
One day, hopefully, they will come out the other side and be someone that is mature and far wiser than they were going into the tunnel...but time will tell on how they bake up.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
