It may turn out to be money well spent. I know it's hard to see that right now but you just never know.
Your mother and my mother, although different generations, seem to have had very similar parenting styles. I can now see that for what it was, her attempt to make everything be OK, so she looked OK. Her children were an extension of her, any wrongdoing on our part was seen as a personal attack on her. She had a very fragile self-esteem and she passed that along.
I finally realized I had different choices and I dabbled in working on that through the years but fear held me back. It's said that it takes a breakdown/crisis to have an awakening. It certainly did for me.
Some authors that have helped me make sense of all this, Pema Chodron, Tara Brach, Brene Brown, Harriet Lerner, David Richo.
Keep moving forward, only look back to see how far you've come.
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Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
