The thing about being an LBS (left behind spouse) is that we CAN ask ourselves these kind of questions and change the things about ourselves and our lives that NEED changing. The MLC S doesn't do that.
I disagree, I think they ARE trying to fix some things about themselves, just in a way we don't particularly like, or particularly adaptive for regular life. But they are.
One thing that was very tough for me to "get" is that they are not doing this to us, necessarily, but rather for themselves.
W, who is seemingly leaving the tunnel, even said as much...she didnt "want to hurt us"...she just was compelled to do what she did and lost her empathy chip for a while.
Until I "got" that, I was running around all butt-hurt and angry/emotional, and not at my best for my kids.
Once I did, MY healing and journey truly began.
My 2 cents...
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
