Do I tell him all I know?

[MrBond]

"You seem to think I have enabled his depression, does this have to be the case?? "

No one is suggesting this. What we are suggesting is that maybe there were other factors that lead up to the A's. Just trying to get a clearer picture. If there is another cause, then it doesn't matter if you expose this A or not. There will be someone else he will be going after.

What is something that you haven't done? In the past, have you done things to try and improve your M?

"While I understand he is depressed i don't believe it is acceptable that he had an affair, that he continues to have 'shallow relationships' with young girls, that he lies continually, uses porn and online dating sites and drinks excessively."

Of course it's not acceptable. He's got a problem. No doubt about it. But there's only so much you can do. If you are going to expose, or to have an intervention, you can't be the one to do it. Someone else close to you two has to. If you do it on your own, he will start blaming you for everything and how you're trying to ruin his happiness.