KGirl - post-move

[KGirl]

Time for a new thread, last one here:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2453401&page=11

GB, your last post on my prev. thread was worrying about things I don't have control over. Yes... I know... ugh... I think I'm getting better at it but it still creeps in. I couldn't sleep last night wondering what H was going to do while at his work conference this week, if he'd go out and get drunk and make poor choices.

I ended up texting H over what I think was necessary for logistics. Several tornadoes touched down in our area last night, and he's out of town, so I'm concerned about the house and how it's holding up. He has someone coming to feed the cat but no idea how often or if they'll check out the rest of the house. So, I reached out to him.

Me: Don't know if you're getting weather alerts.. may want to ask the person to feed the cat to check for any big storm damage like broken windows

Me: I may try to drive by the house today. Seeing too many pictures from our side of town w/ roofs ripped off, trees down.

H: OK, thanks for checking. I'd hope the neighbors would call me if that was the case, but it doesn't hurt for you to check too.

Me: OK, didn't know there was someone keeping an eye out. /did you ask whoever to check the basement if there is heavy rain? [ our basement regularly floods in heavy rain]

H: Well, I mentioned to the neighbors I'd be gone. I did not ask anyone to check the basement so if you wanted to do that that'd be helpful since I wasn't anticipating heavy rain nor would I want to show them how to clean up the basement if it did have water.

H: My mom just called now too. If you can go check the house/basement to see how everythign's looking and let me know, that'd be greatly appreciated.

Me: I can do it after work, not before. Hopefully if there was something big that was urgent, a neighbor would let you know 'cause it'd be obvious.

H: Yes, I think they would. And checking after work is fine obviously since it is better to check today than 3 days from now.


Since I'm still co-owner of this house, I didn't think it was over reaching to check on its well-being... but maybe I did too much? I wasn't going to drop work and everything to go check it out. Anything I should have done differently? Is it bad that I'm annoyed that he didn't seem to take me seriously until his MOM called??