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[Barrybran]

Thanks LFW. Nice to see you in here again. I hope your health is alright.

My wife shared some thoughts with me today. She's done some reading and (her words) she feels like she's coming out of the fog. She sensed my anxiety about the trip and we discussed it briefly. She wants to go anyway and cross the relationship bridge when we get to it. In a nutshell, she wants to do what you've suggested. I feel better getting it off my chest and I feel we're on the same page. As she said, there are no promises but she's all in for a family holiday whether she's at the wedding or not, whether we're together or not.

In other news, my MIL's visit was cut short tonight. She felt unwelcome here and decided to leave. My MIL has stepped on everyone's toes and played the victim card, usual for her, and my wife and I have done our best not to reward her behaviour. This morning she continued the behaviour. I was dead tired, focused on getting the kids ready for the day and I wasn't in the mood for her impatience and neediness and I snapped at her. My MIL brought it up this evening and my wife supported me, telling her mother she has been childish, so she left before I got home. It's days like today that I'm thankful for coming across DB as I've learned that I am responsible for my own behaviour and happiness and I have only achieved happiness by taking responsibility for myself rather than continuing to blame my wife, dad, whoever. My MIL is a nice person (in small doses) and I sincerely hope she sees the light before it's too late.