I would prefer an in house seperation.
But she actually brought up the idea of an Apartment so i agreed.

I don't see anything wrong with saying OM should not pay.
By then again maybe he should? What do you suggest?

Also folks on some of the other marriage boards seem to always advocate throwing her out, saying she does not love me etc.

Can I ask you what your opinion is of that?
I mean the therapist we see tells me to keep her in the house, the boards say throw her out.

I am at a loss.