Hi Scooby - welcome to our little corner of the board!

As to practical stuff, make copies of all financial records, tax returns, retirement accounts etc. Put them in a safe place, not in the house.

Usually in a divorce H will be required to continue your insurance until the divorce is final. Then you can COBRA the coverage for 36 mos if you want.

Start figuring out what you want to do with the house. Do you want it? Will he? How much equity is in it?

Your attorney can give you a rough idea of what's reasonable to expect financially.

Also keep documentation of any weird intersctions with H, in case things escalate to the point of needing a restraining order or something.

It's gonna be ok. Really. On the other side of this storm, the sun is gonna shine.