Hi Will, Good thought as that is exactly what I've been trying to do. I am always supportive when she wants to talk about how he is doing or if he is feeling badly. I express to her that I hope everything works out for him. I do not try and stop her from visiting and actually have helped by taking care of our D so she could go. I have told her that I don't like the fact that she brought him into our M problems and has done whatever he seems to think is "right" but that was when he came during D's graduation and I have avoided talking about it since. I think the problem here is that she knows too well how I feel about him and his views about M and family. Heck, until now she held the same thoughts about him! But I get the idea and I'm trying my best.
W spoke to me tonight and said she is going to start moving. She said it will take time as she has to move a lot of stuff but that she wants to start. I told her that was fine. She also said that she and I will need to divide the furniture! She of course wants to keep all the new stuff and what she calls her "family" stuff. Problem there is her "family" stuff was bought while she wasn't working when her grandmother moved with OUR savings. I will be wanting to keep some of that myself! This may turn into a problem as I was wondering about it. Didn't know if it was furnished or not as she won't talk to me about it.
For my part I plan on being as nice about it as I can without giving away too much. Tomorrow she plans on taking my D14 to activate her phone and then to see the new house. And she says I'm manipulative! She has refused to get her a phone when I wanted to for the last year and now she is doing this as a way to get her happy! We will see. Not upset about it really. I do think it's getting to be time. I just don't want to lose time with my D.
