It's not our R discussions that bother me, it her continued movement toward divorce and "their R" discussions that I have issues with. This is why I must stay dark most of the time.
I've been told I'm making some good progress in changing myself for the better. Maybe I can come out of dark mode someday and she'll see.
Snooping shows that W and OM phone conversations have slowed down a lot. Don't know about facetime or snapchat. Both my mom and her sister have told her she needs to spend more time with the boys. I hear that she cried when my mom told her that watching TV with them in my home was not apropriate. The STBX's home is not the place for her to hang out.
No expectations, but any emotion is a pleasent change.
