At this point in time, as I am learning, when there is an A with OP, they really do not care what your thoughts are. It is all about them. At some point that will change...maybe. And at some point they will wonder why you no longer bring it up and ignore the A altogether. But only when they sense you have moved on from them, and you are no longer a possible Plan B for them. Then is where I hear they get curious/nervous/interested.
Who knows if your W is wondering. That is mind reading and will get you no where but confused and upset.
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16