Cross country DB with WAS

[Anders]

From what I have learned, even if she is giving you a window where you you think you can ask about OM, dont. From your stand point, you have moved on and you do not care what she does or who she does. That is detachment at its finest.

Thanks Pilot. This is a good perspective. It has been a real struggle today to try to stay detached while also wondering if I am defaulting to my old habits of not rocking the boat by avoiding the question. Silly I know given where we are but that thought is lingering.

It has been a real challenge for me finding the line between acting like I don't care about her and not letting what she does bother me.

It will concern her more that you do not care, than any guilt you might try and lay on her by telling her you know.

Save my marriage or save my ego. Good advice here Pilot.

But I am curious, from what I have read in other situations and WASs, I don't get the sense that they would worry if we don't react. Do you think she may actually be wondering why I didn't ask?