FINALLY SURFACING

[Fartiltre]

W called today and was rather upbeat.
She had talked to D7s school and they thought it sounded interesting to establish a grief-support-group. W has talked about this some time ago as something that might help D7. I have told W that I like the idea and think she should pursue it. School can’t and won’t finance it but they might lend some rooms to a T that can run the group. A possible T is one of Ws friend. (Still many things to solve and I am not going to hang my hat on this)
The talk was good.

I have now experienced the feeling of W actually starting to do something after a talk some times during the past months. It might just be me but the last times W and I have had an argument she says some rather harsh things to me and then after a short while she turns around and get totally nice or she does something completely unexpected and that is what I suggested or something close.
It seems like she disagree in the talk, then thinks and then changes her POV. She doesn’t state this but simply acts it out.
Might be me mindreading but still the feeling I have.

At the same time W still seems totally gone. At some point in the convo talking about these groups she said that the children would have to come there several times. I agreed and stated something like “this affect their lifes for the rest of them so off course”. W didn’t get angry but agreed. She was more objective than normal – I (mindread) believe that a comment like this would have taken her through the roof 6 months ago, but not today.

So only one Q remains. Why did she want to share this with me? That is off course her business but I am curious in nature and I believe she also wanted to send a message about her actually doing something about Ds hurt to me and the rest of the world.

If W actually sees, acknowledges and acts on the Ds hurt now I am glad – that will help them.


Good training session in the local triathlon club this evening. Second time I went and there’s some nice people there. I feel some good vibes about this and hopefully it will extend my circle in the local area.


Sandi,
I want to talk to T about it. Not in the perspective of W but in my own. I want to develop this new thing further, but I also want to be able to make faster decisions in time

As far as W goes you might be right. At the same time I do believe that she actually sees the changes and that makes her go “WTF didn’t he do that before” and then “To little to sad”. I think she is pi$$ed at me for not doing this earlier on and she has every right – heck I am pi$$ed myself!