What to do

[Ben2010]

Very down today. She called me this morning after not having talked to me in a week. I was very excited when I saw that it was her that was calling me. I answered the phone and was immediately disappointed. She asked me why I was talking to her family. I had talked to her brother last night just trying to see what he thought about things. Apparently he told her dad that we talked after I asked him to keep it between us. So as you can imagine, her dad talked to her about it today. Her brother and I have been friends for years now and he told me to call him anytime I wanted to for whatever. He suggested that I call their dad and talk to him about this situation as she is living with them and already knows whats going on anyway. I told him that I could do that as some point this week. I didnt really think anything about it. And before I get flamed for talking to her family because its in Sandi's rules not to, her brother and his wife are on my side and I thought that it would be confidential.

Apparently her dad had asked her if she had talked to me and she told him no. Well we did talk on Tuesday at my house and I told her brother that. He told their dad that and I guess he accused her of lying. So now she got upset with me about it. I told her that it wasnt meant to try to draw her back in but just to talk. She said that she is sure that it was to draw her back in but it is only pushing her further away. I told her that Im just trying to work this whole thing out nothing more. She said she would rather I have called her dad not her brother. She doesnt get along with her brother and his wife right now because they disagree with what she is doing.

I talked to my brother after our convo and he seems to think that its a positive thing that she even called me. The last time I talked to her, I told her that I didnt want to talk until she was ready to work on the R. It also seemed like when we were on the phone that she was trying to bait me into an argument, which I did not bite. I never raised my voice or said anything insulting, just told her that it was not my intent to do anything other than talk. She told me that she is going to call me back tonight when she gets off of work. My brother said to not answer the phone for her from now on because everytime we are on the phone its an argument and that is her crutch. He thinks she hides behind the phone because she can get angry and not feel bad about it. It does seem to be a better interaction when we see each other. Im not sure how to take today's conversation and what I should do tonight if she calls me like she said she was going to.