I agree about W not being entirely in her right mind. I had an old friend of hers ask me the other day if I thought W was on drugs, she is so out of character.
There is no doubt about me being the kind of person who does the right thing. I have no doubt whatsoever that my W knows that. She knows this isn't a show, it's the real me. In fact, she's counting on it. She's counting on me to stand by her until she can financially afford to flee. She is knowingly abusing my good nature right now. She's counting on my loyalty, but doesn't value it as a trait.
W said to friend last week: "H still wants to reconcile. He's deluded. Doesn't he get that I'm done?" Loyalty confuses her.
But I stand by my quote. If she's sane enough to tell MC that "working on the M would take a leap of faith", then she's sane enough to make the decision to try or to not try. And W's even said she has resentment to deal with. So I'd say she knows at some level that she has a problem and a choice. So I don't have a problem holding her responsible to some degree. But there is nothing compelling her to deal with those right now.
Unfortunately, I don't think her T is giving her any tools to help her with resentment other than suggesting D. This may be why she has some interest in talking to MC, because MC was at odds with her T. Of course, W may be just looking for confirmation.
I don't know... I'll get a read from SIL at the end of W's vacation... it may be worth cultivating the MC again. I may go see MC while W is on vacation to see what MC thinks. MC said it was kind of pointless for her to be in MC until she makes some decisions.
