"The third time's lucky. "

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Thanks Matt, TBoned and cczamo for responding.
My mother is in liver failure, I was hoping she would regain more lucidity but she's in and out. I don't think she has much time left.I've been driving to the hospital every day to spend some time with her but mostly she's sleeping. I'm having a rather sh*tty 2014 so far but not going to let that get me down. My appraisal is tomorrow for the refi. Closing date is July 12, can't wait to have that over. With the refi I will save 300/month, I was able to make the payment now but not able to do much else, now with that cushion if an emergency arises I can handle it better or be able to buy a new pair of pants if I need it. It's been a struggle but I've been making it, I have a lot of pets to take care of too lol but I love 'em. Thanks for the heads up tboned on the exspouse maybe having to sign, I really haven't been told yet, filled out title paperwork today and it said they could remove a name and if it was for divorce just include the paperwork with the property settlement. He walked away from the house completely, he did not ask for any of the equity, so it will be all mine and I'm thrilled about that now. cczamo you asked about my view on the whole "if" he were to start to come out of mlc now that he's possibly lost his job, well that occurred to me, I've read all those posts too, and I was wondering if he'd hit his rock bottom and ask to move in the basement or something like that, so far I have not heard a word. He doesn't know about any of my personal business and I'm just going to keep it that way. I definitely let go of the rope and have moved on. Now that I can "see" clearly I can live without that treatment. I finally figured out that I deserve better. I'm done being a doormat and a people pleaser. I didn't even realize I was doing it for all those years. So he did me a favor, opened my eyes. Matt what you said about your w getting mad at you - yep i know that one all too well, and I was always trying to "fix" things to please him. Never realized I could not fix him, I didn't break him. I'm over it. I'm really enjoying accomplishing things on my own, and also being taken out on real dates where i'm treated so much better, it's almost alien to me but I love it.