I have been thinking that I could never respect her decision to not try. I would never understand how you could pass up that chance when you see the commitment level the other person has, and when the only thing it costs you is time. There has to be a mighty big pile of resentment there. And it's so easy to just fill that need from OM. I have to watch myself on this one. Man, human psychology ain't easy, is it.
Here you are talking as if she was in her right mind. She's not. And I don't think the WAW in multiple affairs is impressed about the commitment level of her LBH. If you are committed, it has to be b/c you are the kind of man who does the right thing. If you are doing it as a message or picture to your WAW, you might as well be banging your head against a brick wall. The mental condition she is in, prevents her appreciating your loyalty.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
