Hi pbetra, Depression and MLC go hand in hand. My W has been fighting depression for a very long time and has never really gotten past it. You're going to find that most MLCers have a history of depression at one point BEFORE they leave the real world for the world of Replay (where your H is now). He is trying to replay the past but this time "getting it right". This can last awhile so get strapped in and ready for a bumpy ride! This is where they will spew and blame YOU for every bad thing that has ever happened and happens now. Don't believe them for a second! This isn't your fault. You didn't break him and you can't fix him. All you can do is deal, become the best person you can be, get out of his way and let him deal with his situation. Harder than it sounds.
Time for you to GAL and do some 180's, not for him or to save your marriage but for you as you are going to be tested and you are going to be on your own for the duration. The sooner you understand that you can't believe anything they say and 50% of what you see the better off you will be. Again, not easy and I still need work myself but what they think and feel will change so fast and they will not see that they are wrong in any way. To them you are the problem right now. They are right and will feel justified in any action they take no matter how it affects you or anyone else.
There will be some really good people who will help you along the way. Listen to them, they really do care. Good luck and welcome!
