Situation worsening

[LBSinTX]

recng, I wish I could answer that. Not sure what she expects. I haven't pursued her. I feel I've been friendly but haven't engaged her very much. There was one exception where I joked about going on a date after the divorce. She has accused me of being cold a couple of times. She takes me as being hostile sometimes and I don't know how she's getting that from our interactions. Maybe she's just projecting. I was speaking with her last night in the kitchen and she kept eye contact with me and she looked almost scared. It was bizzare. I couldn't tell if she wanted to break down and cry or stab me ;-) I can tell you that my instinct is thy she's afraid if she lets her guard down with me she'll "get sucked back in." The gate is well guarded right now. She has showed a little curiosity at times about what's going on with me but not for a couple of weeks. I think an OM is complicating the situation. She's having fun but she's not happy. I'll probably err on the side of caution and forgo the birthday wish. I'm probably going to run it by a mutual friend to get her thoughts first. I really appreciate the input.