I have been seeing a counselor on my for last 7 months. I have learned control a lot of the anger and emotions. I use breathing techniques, stop before you act and think, and positive affirmations. The positive affirmations and stopping to think really work well. Just something little like being cutoff in traffic would put in a fit, now I ask myself is it worth getting angry about it, and ruining part of my day. Just a little slow down like that is amazing. I am also exercising, losing a fair amount of weight. Helps with both self esteem and mental attitude.
I also held a lot of grudges against my family. I have learned to let them go, and actually even apologized for being such a horrible person to them. I used to get angry just talking on the phone with my mother. Now it's actually something I like to do, and get support from her.
As far as the chores thing goes. That was when she was still with me. I was using that as an example of me not doing the right thing then. I made some mistakes along the separation path. Some could even be too much to overcome. I don't want her to run back to me, I am more getting things off my chest. I am not ready to have her back full time either. I still have work to do. The feelings are there and if I don't get them out somewhere, I'm afraid I will give them to the W. Which would be terrible.
