twin, accept his help right now. You just had a baby. Accept ANY help right now from those you trust with your children.

Now isn't the time to "prove" anything to yourself ... or anyone else.

Just keep your expectations low re: your marriage. If you accept help with the kids, just keep reminding yourself *it's help with/for the kids*. But, yes, accept help.

Sooooo happy to hear things are improving with Lilly!

Big hugs!

M: 40 H: 44
Married 14 years
S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M
2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart
Piecing: April 2014