What is my Next Move?

[Cadet]

Seriously, no, she's responsible for her own debt.

Has your lawyer told you that?

Until you file I am not sure that is correct in our state.

[Oxford1]

Seriously, no, she's responsible for her own debt.

Has your lawyer told you that?

Until you file I am not sure that is correct in our state.

Everything is 50/50.
If we divorce then she's responsible for her debt. Hence the reason they want this settlement agreement.
It obligates us to pay down the debt amicably .
It's going to be 66% me /33% her...

Hence why I don't want her to loose her job..

[Oxford1]

What I am going to do is focus on me all day Saturday and me and my S16 (he will be with Friends on Sat), on Fathers day.

The FogLady comes home "Sunday early evening" (does not even have the decency to tell me her flight schedule)

That is when I will need all the support I can get, not 2x4's but people that can help me think straight once I get a feel for whats going on..

[Starsky309]

Oxford,

I call them as I see them. To do any less would be a disservice to you. If you feel what we are telling you are just "2x4s" and not helpful, I will politely bow out.

It's not like you're listening anyway.


Starsky

[Oxford1]

Oxford,

I call them as I see them. To do any less would be a disservice to you. If you feel what we are telling you are just "2x4s" and not helpful, I will politely bow out.

It's not like you're listening anyway.


Starsky

I did not mean it as literally as that. It's just that I Can not handle calling me names and attacking me it does me no good.. I switched to DB because MB if you don't follow EXACTLY WHAT THEY SAY AND BELIEVE INCLUDING ABANDONING MY SON, they rip you a new one.

[Oxford1]

Please tell me you aren't picking her up from the airport

No she's taking a town car home.

She knows if she expected me to pick her up I would not show up and she would be stuck at an airport 60 miles away.

I am thinking she's on a flight that leaves at about 8 Am EST tomorrow.

I so hope OM drives her nuts before she leaves...me I was calm cool collected and indifferent.

[Oxford1]

The anxiety in me is building knowing she's on her way home

[Oxford1]

Ok, I knew her flight gets in around four pm so I texted her at five to ask if she landed.

Really only did this so I can be out when she gets home.

She got back to me at 5:15 that she just got in the TownCar.

Why she could not tell me when she landed like I always do is beyond me..but she never used to before.

She texted me happy Father's Day, I texted her back, you can call I do t bite...

Really what I was doing was trying to see if she was on the phone with POS.

Probably because they have to talk constantly because he is more insecure then me.

I will bet my life savings that he's warning her how to handle me, coaching her on what to say how to act what to do...

And when I act like she's one of my pals coming over to watch The World Cup...she will be completely shocked!

[MrBond]

"Really only did this so I can be out when she gets home."

That's BS and you know it. You could have easily contacted the airline and not tried to call her directly. Plus it wouldn't have been difficult to just "be out".

":Probably because they have to talk constantly because he is more insecure then me.

I will bet my life savings that he's warning her how to handle me, coaching her on what to say how to act what to do..."

Mind reading.

"And when I act like she's one of my pals coming over to watch The World Cup...she will be completely shocked!"

I thought you said you were going to be out of the house? So what have you actually changed?

[Oxford1]

I need to call chuck and set up an other coaching session.

I did so etching stupid

She has always had a problem especially lately with me complimenting her and the first thing I did was a reverse compliment.

When I got home the limo was there .

I really should have just drove away but S16 wanted to get out of the car.

She looked good but I said , " hello, hope you had a good flight.....I though you might wear that dress you wore when you left to go"

Her comment " leave it to my husband"

I could kill my self ...I did apologize later... At first she said, don't you see anything deeper then my looks, there more then looks...she always says that now because her OM does plus she admits he's pretty homely....

I was so good before she left and now this...

I need to slow down and calm down and think before I speak to her.