Please don't discuss it with therapist just b/c I mentioned it. I was just curious. You have discussed it with therapists and it's agreed you are being reasonable.
I don't know if you will understand or agree, but I think your W is jealous of the time and one on one attention you give to the girls. Not b/c she doesn't want you being a great father, but b/c she has given up that special place in your life and it really stings when she sees your preference of who gets top priority now.
It's kind of like how some men experience jealousy toward a new baby receiving the time and attention from his W that once was all for him. Nobody wants to admit they feel jealousy toward their own child, but it is more about them feeling the loss and seeing the child getting what they no longer have.
This was my reasoning for asking who was interrupting whom. After your explanation, I think it is what she's experiencing. The irony is she knows she chose this road and yet she doesn't like some of its rough spots.
It's not difficult to read some minds. She doesn't seem able to cover her feelings well. The whole eye rolling thing and her impatience says a lot.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
