Most of our problems stem from our communication lack of. I was abusive to her verbally, I can get scary mad I think you would say. We both tried to sweep under the rug, not confront anything. W is in grad school, not a problem, but time and money are always issues. Lack of trust, and intimacy, very big. I hid a pornography addiction and chewing tobacco addiction. The chewing tobacco, I would quit and then start again, trying to hide starting again. Really just tons of stress, W has Arthritis very bad, she is only 28. A lot of depression stems from that. I think there is also some post partum depression from birth I think.
We both had rough childhoods, suffer from some issues from that. More than anything lack of communication skills. Neither of us knows how to deal with the issues we had. This has led her to tell her friends her side, and of course, I am not worth it. My snooping episode from a few weeks ago really put a damper on my efforts, no trust. But I did listen, and get my own bank account phone account, and just stay out of everything. I just hope not to late.
