Possilble WAW

[PeterV2]

dawgy, you're in a difficult sitch. I was exactly where you were but my WAW had moved out a month before I caught her in a hotel with the OM in Dec 2013. She had been seeing him for about 6 months before I found out. She told me she was no longer in love with me and was in love with him. I saw texts where they were planning a new life together.
I bought DB & DR and applied the LRT for those situations where she won't stop an affair. She said she was going to end it with him back in January but then I snooped and found her with him in March on 3 separate occasions.
First of all read DR over again. Especially page 214 on. Make a copy of Sandi's rules and personalize them with your name, W's name and OM's name. Read them daily to yourself. And stick to it. It seems to be working for me.
I know this is tough. Like MWD says, it's the hardest thing you've ever done in your life. I wept many times. I still do from time to time. But you have to do the 180. Otherwise it won't get any better.
Get a DB coach. Mine was extremely helpful. It'll be the best money you've ever spent. Definitely a worthwhile cause. Just remember they say affairs only last about 6 months. My W's lasted about 12 and she's still in withdrawals. But things are improving between us. We're planning on going to MC together in the next few weeks.
And remember also that this is not a sprint, but a marathon. Stay strong.