Wife's mental illness and hard decision

[Lifes Twists]

A lot has been going on this week. The wife wants to have bed rooms in bot places for the girls. I told her that I supported it, but had some requests from DCF. She contacted DCF herself and got the same answer that I gave her. I told her I still support the idea and we should meet with the lawyers to figure it out.

I followed this with a call back to a head hunter concerning a job. I presently have a job, but will entertain better offers. He forwarded my resume to the company and they immediately set up a phone interview. They followed up the phone interview with a request for an in person interview, so I have my fingers crossed.

My middle daughter graduated High School on Friday. Her boy friend and I sat together. I asked my younger two to sit with their mother. I think it went well.

Since the graduation I have had some time to clear my head and consider things. I want to continue on my own growth and be the kind of person that I hope to become. This includes having compassion for others and taking time to think things through before reacting.

To this end I have considered all that has happened in the past 6 weeks as well as what happened last year when I had a bad reaction to medication. I realize the fear that my daughters felt because of my reaction to the medication and the loneliness I felt till I was able to reestablish our relationship. I feel right now my two youngest are showing that same fear with their mother. To try and help them through this I continue to talk to them and encourage them to spend time with their mother.

I have also decided to have them go down today and get the rooms at the apartment set up so they can stay with their mother. I am planning on them staying with her at least on Friday and saturday evenings to start.

This may not be what DCF has envisioned. I know with my conversation with them this week that they expect me to make sure the girls are safe. I feel that I can get the feed back from my girls if something is not right and we can do something about it. My hope is my wife will begin to be happier and less sad. If this happens I know my girls will be happier as well. Their happiness will be the best Fathers Day gift I can ask for. Crossing my fingers and hoping things go smoothly.