Long term marriage - husband quit!

[bugsby]

Hello.
27 year marriage, ups and downs, husband has been depressed, but swears he's not. About 6 weeks ago we had a huge fight.. He said he's done. Gone.

For 30 years he has been the pursuer, we have had bad years, but last 2 have been good. Since his "I'm done" statement, he has not looked back. Last week he told me he was "talking" to someone.. He lives at home, most nights,
My actions:
Beg, plead cry 10 days
Calmed down tried to rationalize. 3 weeks.
Last week. Started 180, but am confused about all specifics.
He is hell bent on getting a divorce. That's all he wants to talk about (even before "friend"). I exposed his "friendship" to his counselor, mother and brothers family (and our two 18yo an 2o yo daughters) right away.
I have not shown contempt or anger toward him. I deserve a medal for the screaming and hostility I have received. That is what pushed me into 180 mode.

I have spoken to an lawyer, removed a few personal items from house. I am getting support from friends, all want me to ditch him

6 weeks ago I was the love of his life. He says divorce, but looks very weepy and seems conflicted. Confuses me, but if I approach him, I get yelled at.

He also wants to be "buddies", and talk, this has confused me greatly (I still expect make up flowers every day!)
My End:
Like to control things. He hates that now ( liked that trait before)
So I'm trying to let go.
Went to EDMR to process trauma history, stop blaming him and bringing up the past.
6 sessions, feel good!
Pray prayers for forgiveness, patience and peace every day. Went through a prayer process with out priest, took 2 hours but so healing.
Have kept house in good order, been pleasant, read DB, Gottman theory and other rebuilding books, he refuses to even try.

I do not want to label him, but if this is a MLC, I don't have 3 - 10 years in me. I'm patient but not that heroric!
If he has not filed yet, (as of Friday he had not) I will try to DB another 4 months, but with him avoiding the house and not even talking to me, how good can that work?

My lawyer said he sounds like someone who might change his mind after filing, when rational thinking prevails, but idk, he's stubborn- and "talking" to another.

Can someone this angry turn around in 6 mo?