One other thing that hits me recently. I was completely out of love with my wife for the last year and a half or more. In the last couple of months through searching me and what makes me tick, has turned around those feelings something fierce. I realize what I did and why. And found I was never really out of love, but more angry and hurt that she couldnt forgive me for my shortcomings, and scared to death that she was going to leave. Funny how that leads to exactly what happened. I was wanting to push so hard and pursue so bad, but it is sinking in that is not even close to right. I do think everyone is different, and certain sitch require specific actions, but overall very similar. Maybe I realy did do too much to ever get her back, if so, I have to live with that and be able to move on. Hopefully I can find that path and get happier than I have been in a long time.
