Thank you Maybell, I'll need to reread this a few times I think.
Next question: Rings. I noticed last Sunday that W took hers off. Before that she always wore them even to OM's house except for one day I knew she was going and made her remove them. I took mine off too last week out of pain and anger at the sitch I suppose. I feel odd not having it there. Would her seeing me with the ring on in church be like a pursuit?