First off, really really glad Lillian is improving and Social Services is resolved.
Secondly, nobody should ever expect to have sufficient control in labor and delivery to DB with the baby's father. Give yourself a break. You behaved the way a woman in labor behaves. That was right and true and it's ok.
Thirdly, you have a newborn baby. Recover, bond with her, take comfort in her. Whatever happens or doesn't with you H is temporary compared to that.
More hugs, more prayers, more support for you. Be well and find peace.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15