Please read and reread takevow's entry. There is an example of someone's spouse speaking from a place outside the tunnel.
"bunkered down in my own world just to survive"
^^^^^ That was my world in MLC for about 2 yrs perfectly described. I woke up to just surviving that day, nothing else.
That's why you get out of the way. Hopefully this also shows some posters that a few do come through the tunnel and can reflect back on the experience, and understand the journey somewhat. If you ask some inquisitive questions such as taketwo you will get some insight as well.
Matt, your wife is not there, but you can see what it looks like. but..... for now move on in your own journey.
I don't know if book title's are accepted here. "death of the hero, birth of the soul" was one of the best source books on MLC and gives details of timelines.
Thanks for the post takevow, hopefully this helps Matt.