I don't normally respond until I have read the entire thread, however this blew me away.

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You want me to stay here with NO COMMITMENT FROM YOU????!!!"


Why are you so surprised and pi$$ed? When you did the following:

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WAH and I have been separated off and on for over three years now. In that time, we've had a daughter, f#cked like rabbits, and basically been really good friends.


Did you have his commitment when you were doing all of that? If you thought you did, and you were duped ...then D his sorry a$$, get him for all you can and move on. Or.......if you thought by doing those things it would draw him back.......you were wrong, so D his sorry a$$ and move on.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!